· Mama Jo's Refugium·
I'm a 31 year old asexual lesbian from Germany and a vapid fan of BBC Sherlock and the Cumberbatch. I will occasionally discuss Life, the Universe and all the Rest. You will find plenty of art and music as well, so just lean back and enjoy. If you have time for a chat feel free to drop by :)
Posted on Apr 20— 52 minutes ago
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Posted on Apr 20— 52 minutes ago
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Brian Kesinger

Who IS this woman? She needs a novel written about her and her friend.

…Look at the Mistake on the Rug. Oh God.


Posted on Apr 20— 2 hours ago
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Posted on Apr 20— 2 hours ago




Notice how if we were to stop arguing about who’s right or wrong we could pretty much change the world.

Common Sense-ism: Don’t be an asshole.

It’s not just a matter of not arguing or not insulting people. What all of these texts are saying is actually really fucking difficult.

What they are really saying is that you need to treat every single person you meet every single day with the consideration that you yourself would want. It’s a very high standard. It means, among myriad other things: do not be snappish and take your frustrations out on someone else who doesn’t deserve it. Do not be unkind to someone whose communication style grates on you because it’s different from your own. Do not be pushy or demanding if someone is currently unable to meet your need (whatever that need may be). Etcetera etcetera.

What these texts are asking for is deep and consistent empathy. With everyone.

The Wiccan Rede is ‘An (if) it harm none, do as ye will,” but we take a VERY broad definition of what ‘harm’ means, and hell yes, things like gratuitous nastiness on the Internet or rudeness to a server or failure to wash that roommate’s dishes you’re using are definitely a form of harm.

The one common element all these texts have is that they are demanding that you look within yourself and examine your own actions.

The one common meaning is this: judge others generously, because you don’t know other people’s trials. Treat others the way you would want to be treated on a day when you were feeling particularly hurt and vulnerable and most in need of kindness and forgiveness.

Posted on Apr 20— 2 hours ago

John Watson in The Empty Hearse (x)

Posted on Apr 20— 2 hours ago
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Girls and women of the world, could we stop apologizing for wanting and eating food? Because this is one of the most ridiculous things that we do collectively as lady-people, and not only does it annoy the shit out of me personally, but it is also INCREDIBLY SAD. Could we stop feeling “guilty” for wanting an effing brownie? Or a plate of fries? Could we stop actively seeking permission from our friends to go ahead and “be bad” and order the cheesecake? Could we all just go ahead and order whatever it is that we feel like eating, instead of saying, “Oh, I feel like a pig, you guys are just getting salads”?

Because—now I know this will come as a shock—WOMEN EAT. We get hungry. We get hungry for pizzas and Double Stuff Oreos and nachos and ice cream and giant French-toast breakfasts, and you know what? WE DON’T NEED TO FEEL BAD ABOUT THAT.

Here I am making a vast and sweeping gender stereotype, but do you ever, ever hear dudes say “I just want a little bite” or “This is so bad, you guys, but I totally ate a whole pint of Ben & Jerry’s last night”? No! Because it’s OK for men to eat! Men get hongray! Men need frozen dinners called “Hungry-Man”! Men need Manwich! Boys are allowed to grow into men, but “attractive” women in our culture are expected to stay at pretty much an eternal pre-adolescent weight. What’s society’s current ideal man look like? Fit. Big muscles. What’s society’s current ideal woman look like? Thin. Really thin. No hips. No belly. Hairless except for the head. Basically a 10-year-old girl with boobs added for sex appeal.

You see it everywhere—every café, every restaurant, every kitchen across the country. Women bargaining with waiters and friends about whether or not they should get a side salad or fries with their entrée. Women making demeaning jokes to one another about their desire for food, like “Once on the lips, forever on the hips” and “Well, it’s midnight, so technically your body doesn’t know whether it’s today or tomorrow, so the calories zero themselves out, hahaha” and women bonding with one another over their shared guilt! You’re being bad and getting the chocolate cake? Ooh, now that you’re doing it, let’s both be really bad, and I’ll order the key lime pie and we won’t tell a soul, will we? It’s just us girls!

Why are we apologizing for wanting food? What the hell? BODIES NEED FOOD. WE DIE WITHOUT IT. Food tastes good! And we’re programmed to crave it! Sure, some food is healthier than other food, but what is up with punishing ourselves for wanting pickle chips? Why is it acceptable—nay! encouraged!—in our culture for women to feel guilty and publicly “admit” our guilt for wanting to eat a cookie? Why are we rationalizing our “bad behavior”—you know, our EATING—with statements like “I’ve been really good lately” or “I’m gonna need to walk this off later”?

It makes me insane.

I want this to end.

I want women to allow themselves to want food. I want women to be hungry and ask for what they want to eat without apologizing. I want women to stop looking for permission from others before they eat something that is not a carrot or spinach. I want my friends to get the chili fries if they want the chili fries, and not say something like, “It all goes straight to my ____” (hips, thighs, butt, etc.). I want to see a girl sink her teeth into a huge cheeseburger and fries and not cut the burger in half to save some for later. I want my mother to allow herself more than one small square of dark chocolate per day. I want women to take pleasure in food, without punishing ourselves for wanting it.

Hear me, womenfolk: I want all of us, everywhere, to stop apologizing, stop rationalizing our behavior, and just eat the damn brownie already.

Eating: A Manifesto by Krista Burton for Rookie Mag (via aurelle)

I am so lucky that my mother instilled in me the value of unapologetically listening to my body. If that means exercise and craving salads, so be it. But I’ve also gone through a time when I’ve had two belgian waffles at every meal for a week because for whatever reason, that’s what I needed.

(via appeeling)

Posted on Apr 20— 3 hours ago


Sherlock’s facial expressions in His Last Vow (Part - 1)

Posted on Apr 20— 3 hours ago
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I saw a hot lady at a grocery store, kinda trying to remember what she looked like

Black people are a small minority in Finland and every time you see one chances are they’re really well dressed

Posted on Apr 20— 3 hours ago
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Please don’t feel obliged to tell me that was remarkable or amazing. John’s expressed the same thought in every possible variant available to the English language.

Posted on Apr 20— 3 hours ago